“Two words. Three vowels. Four consonants. Seven letters. It can either cut you open to the core and leave you in ungodly pain or it can free your soul and lift a tremendous weight off your shoulders. The phrase is: It's over." ― Maggi Richard
There’s nothing more painful than knowing that your man doesn’t feel like he did when you first met.
On the surface, everything might seem fine. To your family and friends, you might look like the perfect couple, and everything's going well between you.
But that small voice in your heart tells you differently. You can't quite put your finger on it, but you know your relationship is in trouble.
And with each passing day, that voice inside you grows louder and louder. Part of you just wants to bury your head in the sand and pretend that everything’s fine.
But you know that sooner or later, you can’t ignore that voice anymore.
As for your man, he’s not telling you anything, and it’s driving you crazy. Sometimes you wish he’d just come out with it and be straight with you.
If you knew for sure that the other shoe was going to drop, you could at least prepare yourself.
But instead, he’s simmering behind his wall of deafening silence.
Meanwhile, you’re stewing in your personal hell, trying to figure out what to do next.
Facing the Truth!
When you’re invested in a person, it’s hard to accept the possibility that maybe he’s not the one meant for you. Just thinking about it is painful.
But a lot of women fall into the trap of denial and look the other way. The signs are right in front of them, but they pretend not to see it.
So how do you know if that feeling in the pit of your stomach is just fear talking and nothing more?
How can you tell if he really does want out, but can’t say it to your face?
To help you gauge where you stand with a guy - and what to do next – check out the 5 Red Flags That A Guy Wants to Leave:-
1) He’s Turned Into the Silent Sphinx
Have you noticed your man being more quiet than usual? Maybe in the beginning, it didn't take much for him to share his thoughts with you.
If he had a rough day or something was bugging him, he’d waste no time spilling the beans.
But now things have changed with him. Suddenly, he’s withdrawn and brushes off your questions with, “I don’t want to talk about it.”
It might sound like a textbook male response, but think twice before dismissing this one.
Watch out if the shift in his behavior is drastic. Going from being a chatterbox to stonewalling can’t be a good sign.
2) He Can’t Stand Being Around You
You’d think this would be obvious, but you’d be surprised.
I’ve talked to a lot of women who didn’t give this behavior much thought until their man gave them the “I love you, but not in love with you” speech.
So in some cases, spotting this sign isn’t as easy as you think. Watch out for the following:-
He flips out over the stupidest things, like forgetting to put back the toothpaste near the sink or not replying to his messages right away
The things he used to find endearing about you before annoy him now
When you try to snuggle up to him, he tenses up, and his body language says "go away"
Say goodbye to any sexy time, too - he doesn’t seem turned on by you anymore
He’s finding little things to bicker about
He overreacts to innocuous questions or comments and responds defensively
He used to be laid back and game for anything, and now it seems like he’s ready to snap at the drop of a hat
Now sometimes, there’s a good reason why he’s being so uptight. Maybe there’s another part of his life that isn’t doing so well, like his career for instance.
He could also be feeling burned out and lacking motivation. That happens to everyone at point or another.
However, you should be concerned if there doesn’t seem to be any other factors involved.
If this irrational behavior keeps up with little justification for it, it’s possible that he wants to check out of the relationship.
3) He has become Mean, Hostile & Non-Responsive
This is probably more apparent than the other signs. Not only has he clammed up and turned into a grumpy shell of his former self... but it seems that the affection he once had has been replaced by a HOSTILE attitude.
His general tone towards you is demoralizing. His words cut deep, especially when you’re in a heated argument.
He just wants to “win” the fight – even if it means saying the most hurtful things that have never come out of his mouth before.
You might even wonder, “Who is this stranger I’m talking to? This wasn’t the guy I met not too long ago…”
4) The Love and Affection Have Dried Up
On top of everything else, he’s turned a blind eye to your emotional needs.
He couldn’t care any less if you had a terrible day. He’s not in the mood to hear it, and he’d rather be doing something else.
The same goes for your other needs, too. He no longer makes the time to be together, goes off the radar for extended periods of time… he doesn't keep you in the loop with what's going, and he's basically not interested in doing the things a couple is supposed to do.
For all intents and purposes, he’s stopped TRYING.
5) He Wants Space – LOTS of It
It's one thing for a guy to be unavailable for a while when he's dealing with a work-related task or something equally important.
Those times are expected, and he'll eventually come out of his cave, so to speak.
But what if he's acting like he dropped off the face of the Earth? And what if he doesn't even make the slightest effort to give you a heads up?
Maybe you've repeatedly been sending him messages, asking him what he's doing.
Then he replies with one-liners - or the dreaded "K."
In that case, that could mean that he’s not really interested in coming back.
Is It Too Late?
If you’re seeing only a couple of these signs - and they only happen occasionally – then it could be just a case of “Relationship Fatigue.” That’s actually normal, and couples lose the spark a bit at some point.
It’s also possible that he’s getting a little TOO comfortable in the relationship. It’s normal for some guys to slack off and drop the ball.
Furthermore, some men have a tendency to take things for granted. These guys might just need a little nudge to remember how good they’ve got it.
Annoying to be sure, but it happens.
However, if you’re seeing a LOT of these telltale signs frequently in your relationship, it could be something more serious.
He could very well be entertaining thoughts of packing his bags and heading for the hills.
But don’t lose hope – there is still something you can do.
You see, I used to be in the same situation. My long-time partner had basically shunned me and he was already one foot out the door.
But I discovered a way to flip a switch inside his head, and it made all the difference in the world.
More importantly, I stumbled upon the difference between making a man feel attracted… and making him feel a DEEP emotional attachment to you.
So when I learned how to do the latter, it eliminated any trace of doubt in his mind that I was The One for him.
And the great thing is that it works on just about ANY guy.
Whether you’ve known him for a few months - or a few years - you can make him realize that leaving you would be the WORST decision he could make in his life.
